On Wednesday, usually the standard, uneventful but busy Hump Day, I met a new friend.
My condo runs a shuttle to the metro and this is how I start my daily morning commute…only on Wednesday it wasn’t running. Apparently the shuttle had gotten a flat but it meant many in my community were left without our usual transport. I grabbed my bag and walked to the bus stop as taking the public bus was the only other option. Another young woman joined me and we said hello and chatted briefly. She too lived in my community and normally rode the shuttle. “When’s the next bus?” she asked.
I looked at my phone, “I’m not sure. There was supposed to be one two minutes ago and it never showed, now the website is saying there isn’t another bus for 24 minutes!”
We waited a few more minutes chatting idly and exchanging names. “I’m going to try to grab another bus,” she said and began walking toward the main road.
I nodded and then turned and looked down the road and saw a bus rumbling toward us. “Rachel!” I shouted, “A bus is coming!”
She smiled and turned back toward me but the expression on her face turned to one of confusion when a school bus rolled by. “Ummm…”
She laughed, “Oh! I really thought you meant we could hop the school bus!” We laughed as the public bus, the bus we could board, pulled up.
We chatted as we rode to the metro and realized our jobs would likely bring us in contact with one another. We exchanged business cards and then personal phone numbers and made plans to hang out in the future.
As an adult it can be hard to make new friends – so many of us are set in our ways and with a specific group of friends and we don’t want to reach out to new people. Generally speaking I’m not one of those people but I admit that making friends as an adult is harder than it was when we were kids. Now it takes effort and commitment and things like checking calendars and coordinating. So much work these friendships! A woman even wrote a book about it called MWF Seeking BFF: My Yearlong Search for a New Best Friend. I’ve read it and the author got a lot of things right in the book – she chronicles how she has to reach out to women in her new city, how many are open to new friendships, but they’re not willing to make the first move for fear of seeming too desperate or being rejected. It’s like dating only there’s no sex.
I’m always looking for new friends and am excited about meeting someone who lives just a few buildings from me. After saying goodbye at the metro we texted quickly and made plans to hang out next week. Looks like I’ve got a (friend) date!